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Sep 25, 2007

The other day I had an interesting conversation with Dorian about friendship and I really found it very fruitful in that they shared the same opinion, but with nuances similar to the end. And in a reflective moment as I realized how many people I know, I have known and will know, is that if anything characterizes the human being think it is because the mass of people around you along her life.

That's not bad, of course not, but it may seem unpleasant, I think what is wrong if people consider all friends, or put another way, consider all people with the same level of relationship.

Why I came to this conclusion?, Then noting that almost the first thing you do when two people now know is "giving the messenguer" how many times I have asked and I declined!, But not because they want to, but because it is not necessary to have direct contact with all persons involved in your life, which some people feel almost offended but you do.

But that need not be an unpleasant fact, not mean that the person occupies a place inferior to others, do not want to be associated with it, etc, but simply its role for you is another, the matter is that people do not always accept our rightful role in relation to another person. This does not mean that over time, that role can not change and a person who in principle to yourself is a co-worker, can occupy an important role in your life, but that is the time which is determined not be known simply as so many people seem to believe.

And all this may seem negative, need not be, okay, you can think, but that this way of being selfish, because establishing roles, close the door in advance to people who can be wonderful without the opportunity of that they know better. Error. Because as I said before, the time may change the role of a person and become important in your life, and honestly, many arguments or misunderstandings between people, I think they give it, by pretending that all people are that have a close relationship, when that is impossible.

Or to put it a bit harder, but that basically is the reality, the relationship between you and the people around you should be based on categories: Coworkers, Friends, Friends of march ..... but some are better than others, need not, in fact, often can be better co-worker that a friend indeed, but maybe if you were to change role, worsen your relationship with him.

So ultimately, the keys to an order in your personal life is to have clear boundaries between the different levels that each person holds in your life, without a means to be worse than another, that time can decide where to end each one, and conversely, to know what role you occupy for other people and trying to understand, as many problems as I said, they appear when other people do not understand their role, wanting to get into another that is not theirs, at least yet.

Of course for no good writer, haha, because express my thoughts clearly not something that I very well, after reading what I wrote, , But hey, sure with your power of reasoning understand what I mean, after already agreeing or not depends on each.

Be happy.

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14 Comments

Josepul September 25, 2007 at 21:12
I partly agree with what you say to establish roles for calling him somehow, but not have a role to ask favors or to do something for these people and then when they do not move from you INTERESTED.
Dorian September 25, 2007 at 21:20
Nice reading, but I think that should not be closed, although the categories are clear.
You speak right, but say that time can rectify you avoid contact with people who can be wonderful, because time will each in their role. Do not think so, the time does what you want. Just what a person is like a basic communication tool, nothing intrusive, as your online messaging address (if not msn) to you is almost sinful. But that way you avoid the time change its role, because you avoid the contact. You could talk with that person online, for example, but not tell her anything intimate.
The attitude toward people does not put the time, but yourself. Others do not understand your attitude and, perhaps, someone else's problem.
Miguel Daza September 25, 2007 at 21:35
I do not think this ever happened to me you comment on the roles, at least that I remember. The only thing I can say is that I've noticed that I have been friends for years (you included), and although we do not see every day, even every week, is that there is a great amitad that will last forever, and that's something you know you have there for life. Friendship is when you question not do something for your friend, you do it and that's it, and above all respect, is essential, as well as listening and asking the other also do such things are going, not just talk about yourself .
Reuben September 25, 2007 at 21:38
Well, but that would be another aspect of the relationship, as is the behavior, in fact I do favor whenever I can but people do not know, but I mean more global aspect to consider a person, that the moral of the relationship (use, interest, selfishness, etc.)
Reuben September 25, 2007 at 21:56
Michael, do not get me wrong, I do not mean qualities of friendship with friends, or whom I consider a friend, or not much less, BUT it is not possible, is to consider everyone who is part of your life or someone who just presented itself as a friend, at least at first, as many people seem to do. That is, treat all people the same level of personal relationship. Just do not make myself clear, -)
Blaxter September 25, 2007 at 22:10
And those who do not have that mass of people?, Perhaps due to being a fucking antisocial separatists, or maybe not ...
Reuben September 25, 2007 at 22:26
And those who do not have that mass of people?, Perhaps due to being a fucking antisocial separatists, or maybe not ...
For surely you avoid complex situations that sometimes people generate our immediate environment, :-)
manolito September 26, 2007 at 9:06
To read my billets and I have OPGC lol.
Juanjo September 26, 2007 at 11:40
Well based on reading the post of ruben was very much agree with Ruben, we sinuses to tread carefully then may come the problems. I prefer not spun so fine and give the reason that everyone around you if you have your role and do not try to change them or see what is not, a co-worker may be very good companion but not necessarily be your friend, it is true that it may become one, but I think that is something that arises in any case be clear from the start as each individual situation and never closed the course if it is something that can give greater friendship, things come up, never force anything either improperly or negative value. What the messenger because it is not, if you like him because I give it, and but for the same tmb depending the case, then talk more or less or Any
Reuben September 26, 2007 at 12:05
Juanjo Welcome!, Which ilsuión, , Well it's not very important messenguer with it just wanted to note that many people give the former the same level of confidence in almost every new person he meets.
Puto September 26, 2007 at 18:28
I've only read the first paragraph haha
I hate everyone equally.
Reuben September 26, 2007 at 19:58
Puto and Manolito, check that you are unpleasant. For you it you lose it.
nano September 26, 2007 at 21:50
I totally agree with you but never oh ruben that amistad.aunque CERAR any door in a few days to meet people you can take a lot less, and have a different friend.
^ ^ CyN October 1, 2007 at 19:02
Although we all hate, we're all sorted, and have a wide role is completely normal.
The time puts everyone at their level (friend, partner, close friend, etc) but also care about the attitude of each one, and it might not be pigeonholed, but will vary by level.
Aaaanda that life does not turn or anything ...
Today I realize that not everyone deserves "your love" and it is better to have your small circle of friends and colleagues and others, the kick.
Delivery Address what your email ... it's almost more personal to the phone number as before, but we do not suffer this problem that I am asked, but if I did I would not mind because those people like this: 1) just talking time, or just a "hello, how about" or 2) if they get heavy erased.